Even for yourself, to steal the name of a movie. If you have not seen the 2011 Crazy, Stupid, Love movie I highly recommend it. I watched it for the first time just the other day, and wanted to watch it again immediately (and did so the next day!).
To linger on one of the themes in Crazy, Stupid, Love, I have long held the opinion that vanity is an ugly quality. However not all vanity is misplaced. There is something in making an effort in one’s own appearance that reflects a healthy attitude. It says to yourself, let alone anyone else, I am worth making an effort for. I hope this makes sense. I used to have a healthy interest in clothes and the like. And somewhere along the way I have let this slide a little too much and then convinced myself that all interest in one’s own appearance is vanity rather than recognising that I am not putting time and energy towards myself.
This movie resonated with something that I had already been reflecting on, that I am almost 45 – and suddenly wondering where the last 15 years have gone. I think I look the same as ever, it is only when I look in the mirror that I have to acknowledge that perhaps the freshness of youth has passed! And the saying that you really never realise how pretty you were until it has gone occasionally pops into my head. Maybe it has something to do with being with my other half for 10 years – and not quite making the same effort, while juggling motherhood and work. I am never going to be a person whose life revolves around my appearance, that would be like a personality change for me; but I have somehow slipped into not taking any time for myself in the morning, making do, and buying hardly anything for myself as if it were a waste of money. I think it is time to re-indulge a little. It is not wrong to want to look nice, to want nice things – there should be no guilt in that. What is it with guilt when you shouldn’t have it?! As the line in movie went, “I am worth more than the Gap”.
Has there been a time when you haven’t put as much into your appearance? How did you make time for that again?